Be What You Are!

Be Perfectly Happy To Be What You Are!

There are those who seem to enjoy being unpleasant for the sake of it.
There are lots of others who are spiteful, scornful, snobbish, hurtful, selfish

and small-minded.

Obviously, as an idealistic and caring person, one is not one of them.
Now that circumstances are forcing one to deal with someone of this nature,
resist the temptation to encourage them to adopt a more gracious approach.

They're perfectly happy as they are.
Leave them be.
Be perfectly happy to be what you are, too.


The law of our life can be summed up in the axiom
"be what you are"

Thomas Merton


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BE HAPPY!!!

OUR GREEN BABY!

Zion Lim Xiu Ming

TIME IS LIKE A RIVER!

Time is like a river.

You cannot touch the same water twice,
because the flow has passed will never pass again.

Enjoy every moment of life.....

For Those Over 55 Years Old

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For those who are already 55, start practising it.

For those almost 55, get ready.

For those where 55 is a long way off, help your parents do it.

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For those Over 55 Years Old

1. Focus on enjoying people, not on indulging in or accumulating material things.

2. Plan to spend whatever you have saved.

You deserve to enjoy it and the healthy years you have left.

Travel if you can afford it.

Don't leave anything for your children or loved ones to quarrel about.

By leaving too much, you may even cause more trouble when you are gone.

3. Live in the here and now, not in the yesterdays and tomorrows.

It is only today that you can handle. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not even happen.

4. Enjoy your grandchildren (if blessed with any)

but don't be their full time baby sitter.

You have no moral obligation to take care of them.

Don't have any guilt about refusing to babysit anyone's kids,

including your own grand-kids.

Your parental obligation is to your children.

After you have raised them into responsible adults,

your duties of child-rearing and babysitting are finished.

Let your children raise their own off-springs.

5. Accept physical weakness, sickness and other physical pains.

It is a part of the ageing process. Enjoy whatever your health can allow.

6. Enjoy what you are and what you have right now.

Stop working hard for what you do not have.

If you don't have them, it's probably too late.

7. Enjoy your life with your spouse, children, grandchildren and friends.

People, who truly love you, love you for yourself, not for what you have.

Anyone who loves you for what you have will just give you misery.

And you'd probably know that by now.

8. Forgive and accept forgiveness. Forgive yourself and others.

Enjoy peace of mind and peace of soul.

9. Not trying to be morbid, but befriend death.

It's a natural part of the life cycle. Don't be afraid of it.

Death is the beginning of a new and better life.

So, prepare yourself not for death but for a new life with the Almighty.

10. Be at peace with your Creator.

For ..... He is all you have after you leave this sojourn on Earth.

More Tonka Toys for Grandson!!!

Toys for Grandson + Grandpa!!!

Xiu Ming on Tonka Bike!

TOYS!

Tonka Garage!

Mini!

Tonka Baby Cars!

Nice car set!

Happy Xiu Ming!

LIFE * Coffee & Cups * $$$

'The happiest people in the world are not those who
have no problems, but those who learn to live with
things that are less than perfect.'

A group of graduates, highly established in their careers,
got together to visit their old university professor.
Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in
work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went
to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and
an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal,
some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite -
telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee,
the professor said:
'If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were
taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones.
While it is normal for you to want only the best for
yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.
Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.
In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases
even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted
was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the
best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.'

Now consider this, said the professor, 'Life is the coffee;
the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain Life,
and the type of cup we have does not define,
nor change the quality of Life we live.
Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup,
we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.

Enjoy your coffee!

'The happiest people don't have the best of everything.
They just make the best of everything'.

Four things to take note of in life...
1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.

Shine a light & enjoy your Coffee today!

WHEN DRUNK:

THINGS THAT ARE DIFFICULT TO SAY WHEN DRUNK:
1. Innovative.
2. Preliminary.
3. Proliferation.
4. Cinnamon.

THINGS THAT ARE VERY DIFFICULT TO SAY WHEN DRUNK:
1. Specificity.
2. Anti-constitutionalistically.
3. Passive-aggressive disorder.
4. Transubstantiate.

THINGS THAT ARE DOWN RIGHT IMPOSSIBLE TO SAY WHEN DRUNK:
1. No thanks, I'm married.
2. Nope, no more booze for me!
3. Sorry, but you're not really my type.
4. Kebab? No thanks, I'm not hungry.
5. Good evening, officer. Isn't it lovely out tonight?
6. Oh, I couldn't! No one wants to hear me sing karaoke.
7. I'm not interested in fighting you.
8. Thank you, but I won't make any attempt to dance,
I have no coordination. I'd hate to look like a fool!
9. I must be going home now, as I have to work in the morning.

My Next Life * Woody Allen

The Mayonnaise Jar

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two mugs of Beer.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar

He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two mugs of Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed..

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your
health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else
was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and
your car.

The sand is everything else---the small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never
have room for the things that are important to you.

SO.....

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children.

Spend time with your parents.

Visit with grandparents.

Take time to get medical checkups.

Take your spouse out to dinner.

Play another 18.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer
represented.

The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'

The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

The Many Faces of Grandson Xiu Ming!

wondering?

playful

cheeky

inquisitive

happy!

ok

any food?

am hungry!

I see!

don't understand?

happy time?

HAPPY HAPPY!

Happy with Grandma!

Grandparents!

All About Grandparents

Grandmas are moms with lots of frosting.
~Author Unknown

What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose
change, and they give me a million dollars' worth of pleasure.
~Gene Perret

Grandmothers are just 'antique' little girls.
~Author Unknown

Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild.
~Welsh Proverb

A grandmother is a babysitter who watches the kids
instead of the television.
~Author Unknown

Never have children, only grandchildren.
~Gore Vidal

Becoming a grandmother is wonderful.
One moment you're just a mother.
The next you are all-wise and prehistoric.
~Pam Brown

Grandchildren don't stay young forever, which is good
because Grandfathers have only so many horsy rides in them.
~Gene Perret

When grandparents enter the door, discipline flies out the window.
~Ogden Nash

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see
just you all day and now the day was complete.
~ Marcy DeMaree

Grandmas never run out of hugs or cookies.
~Author unknown

Grandmas hold our tiny hands for just a little while,
but our hearts forever.
~Author Unknown

If I had known how wonderful it would be to have
grandchildren, I'd have had them first.
~Lois Wyse

My grandkids believe I'm the oldest thing in the world.
And after two or three hours with them, I believe it, too.
~Gene Perret

If becoming a grandmother was only a matter of choice,
I should advise every one of you straight away to become
one. There is no fun for old people like it!
~Hannah Whithall Smith

It's such a grand thing to be a mother of a mother - that's
why the world calls her grandmother.
~Author Unknown

Grandchildren are God's way of compensating us for growing old.
~Mary H. Waldrip

You do not really understand something unless you can
explain it to your grandmother.
~Proverb

An hour with your grandchildren can make you feel young
again. Anything longer than that, and you start to age quickly.
~Gene Perret

The best baby-sitters, of course, are the baby's grandparents.
You feel completely comfortable entrusting your baby to
them for long periods, which is why most grandparents flee to Florida.
~Dave Barry

I wish I had the energy that my grandchildren have - if only
for self-defense.
~Gene Perret

Grandmother-grandchild relationships are simple.
Grandmas are short on criticism and long on love.
~Author Unknown

Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.
Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. ~Alex Haley

Grandmother - a wonderful mother with lots of practice.
~Author Unknown

A grandparent is old on the outside but young on the inside.
~Author Unknown

One of the most powerful hand clasps is that of a new
grandbaby around the finger of a grandfather.
~Joy Hargrove

It's amazing how grandparents seem so young once you become one. ~Author Unknown

If your baby is 'beautiful and perfect', never cries or fusses,
sleeps on schedule and burps on demand, an angel all the
time, you're the grandma.
~Teresa Bloomingdale

Grandparents are similar to a piece of string - handy to have
around and easily wrapped around the fingers of their grandchildren. ~Author Unknown

What is it about grandparents that is so lovely?
I'd like to say that grandparents are God's gifts to children.
And if they can but see, hear and feel what these people

have to give, they can mature at a fast rate.
~Bill Cosby

Grandchildren don't make a man feel old; it's the

knowledge that he's married to a grandmother.
~G. Norman Collie

Family Vacation in New Zealand * Jan 2009

Si Siew + Xiu ming at Christchurch Airport

Bridget + Alex Parfitt Church wedding at Christchurch

Wan with Grandson at Clearwater Resort in Christchurch

Wan at Pancake Rocks

Si Siew with Son on Ocean Beach

Wan with Xiu Ming during Lake Matheson trek

Group at Fox Glacier

Wan at Lake Tekapo

Grandson Xiu Ming with Clem Parfitt

Mafia Kid!

Zion Lim Xiu Ming

in action

New Zealand

Marriage Relationship!

Before And After Marriage


Before Marriage

John - Ah...At last. I can hardly wait.
Jane - Do you want me to leave?
John - NO! Don't even think about it.
Jane - Do you love me?
John - Of course! Always have and always will!
Jane - Have you ever cheated on me?
John - NO! Why are you even asking?
Jane - Will you kiss me?
John - Every chance I get!
Jane - Will you hit me?
John - H**l no! Are you crazy?!
Jane - Can I trust you?
John - Yes Jane - Darling!


After Marriage

Read from the bottom back to the top.

Great photo shots of Xiu Ming taken by his parents

Yoga with Mummy!

Handsome Boy!

Prisoners?


Foot Massage!

Indecent exposure lah!