More Tonka Toys for Grandson!!!

Toys for Grandson + Grandpa!!!

Xiu Ming on Tonka Bike!

TOYS!

Tonka Garage!

Mini!

Tonka Baby Cars!

Nice car set!

Happy Xiu Ming!

LIFE * Coffee & Cups * $$$

'The happiest people in the world are not those who
have no problems, but those who learn to live with
things that are less than perfect.'

A group of graduates, highly established in their careers,
got together to visit their old university professor.
Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in
work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went
to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and
an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal,
some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite -
telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee,
the professor said:
'If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were
taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones.
While it is normal for you to want only the best for
yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.
Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.
In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases
even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted
was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the
best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.'

Now consider this, said the professor, 'Life is the coffee;
the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain Life,
and the type of cup we have does not define,
nor change the quality of Life we live.
Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup,
we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.

Enjoy your coffee!

'The happiest people don't have the best of everything.
They just make the best of everything'.

Four things to take note of in life...
1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.

Shine a light & enjoy your Coffee today!

WHEN DRUNK:

THINGS THAT ARE DIFFICULT TO SAY WHEN DRUNK:
1. Innovative.
2. Preliminary.
3. Proliferation.
4. Cinnamon.

THINGS THAT ARE VERY DIFFICULT TO SAY WHEN DRUNK:
1. Specificity.
2. Anti-constitutionalistically.
3. Passive-aggressive disorder.
4. Transubstantiate.

THINGS THAT ARE DOWN RIGHT IMPOSSIBLE TO SAY WHEN DRUNK:
1. No thanks, I'm married.
2. Nope, no more booze for me!
3. Sorry, but you're not really my type.
4. Kebab? No thanks, I'm not hungry.
5. Good evening, officer. Isn't it lovely out tonight?
6. Oh, I couldn't! No one wants to hear me sing karaoke.
7. I'm not interested in fighting you.
8. Thank you, but I won't make any attempt to dance,
I have no coordination. I'd hate to look like a fool!
9. I must be going home now, as I have to work in the morning.

My Next Life * Woody Allen

The Mayonnaise Jar

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two mugs of Beer.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar

He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two mugs of Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed..

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your
health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else
was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and
your car.

The sand is everything else---the small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never
have room for the things that are important to you.

SO.....

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children.

Spend time with your parents.

Visit with grandparents.

Take time to get medical checkups.

Take your spouse out to dinner.

Play another 18.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer
represented.

The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'

The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

The Many Faces of Grandson Xiu Ming!

wondering?

playful

cheeky

inquisitive

happy!

ok

any food?

am hungry!

I see!

don't understand?

happy time?

HAPPY HAPPY!

Happy with Grandma!

Grandparents!

All About Grandparents

Grandmas are moms with lots of frosting.
~Author Unknown

What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose
change, and they give me a million dollars' worth of pleasure.
~Gene Perret

Grandmothers are just 'antique' little girls.
~Author Unknown

Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild.
~Welsh Proverb

A grandmother is a babysitter who watches the kids
instead of the television.
~Author Unknown

Never have children, only grandchildren.
~Gore Vidal

Becoming a grandmother is wonderful.
One moment you're just a mother.
The next you are all-wise and prehistoric.
~Pam Brown

Grandchildren don't stay young forever, which is good
because Grandfathers have only so many horsy rides in them.
~Gene Perret

When grandparents enter the door, discipline flies out the window.
~Ogden Nash

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see
just you all day and now the day was complete.
~ Marcy DeMaree

Grandmas never run out of hugs or cookies.
~Author unknown

Grandmas hold our tiny hands for just a little while,
but our hearts forever.
~Author Unknown

If I had known how wonderful it would be to have
grandchildren, I'd have had them first.
~Lois Wyse

My grandkids believe I'm the oldest thing in the world.
And after two or three hours with them, I believe it, too.
~Gene Perret

If becoming a grandmother was only a matter of choice,
I should advise every one of you straight away to become
one. There is no fun for old people like it!
~Hannah Whithall Smith

It's such a grand thing to be a mother of a mother - that's
why the world calls her grandmother.
~Author Unknown

Grandchildren are God's way of compensating us for growing old.
~Mary H. Waldrip

You do not really understand something unless you can
explain it to your grandmother.
~Proverb

An hour with your grandchildren can make you feel young
again. Anything longer than that, and you start to age quickly.
~Gene Perret

The best baby-sitters, of course, are the baby's grandparents.
You feel completely comfortable entrusting your baby to
them for long periods, which is why most grandparents flee to Florida.
~Dave Barry

I wish I had the energy that my grandchildren have - if only
for self-defense.
~Gene Perret

Grandmother-grandchild relationships are simple.
Grandmas are short on criticism and long on love.
~Author Unknown

Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.
Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. ~Alex Haley

Grandmother - a wonderful mother with lots of practice.
~Author Unknown

A grandparent is old on the outside but young on the inside.
~Author Unknown

One of the most powerful hand clasps is that of a new
grandbaby around the finger of a grandfather.
~Joy Hargrove

It's amazing how grandparents seem so young once you become one. ~Author Unknown

If your baby is 'beautiful and perfect', never cries or fusses,
sleeps on schedule and burps on demand, an angel all the
time, you're the grandma.
~Teresa Bloomingdale

Grandparents are similar to a piece of string - handy to have
around and easily wrapped around the fingers of their grandchildren. ~Author Unknown

What is it about grandparents that is so lovely?
I'd like to say that grandparents are God's gifts to children.
And if they can but see, hear and feel what these people

have to give, they can mature at a fast rate.
~Bill Cosby

Grandchildren don't make a man feel old; it's the

knowledge that he's married to a grandmother.
~G. Norman Collie

Family Vacation in New Zealand * Jan 2009

Si Siew + Xiu ming at Christchurch Airport

Bridget + Alex Parfitt Church wedding at Christchurch

Wan with Grandson at Clearwater Resort in Christchurch

Wan at Pancake Rocks

Si Siew with Son on Ocean Beach

Wan with Xiu Ming during Lake Matheson trek

Group at Fox Glacier

Wan at Lake Tekapo

Grandson Xiu Ming with Clem Parfitt

Mafia Kid!

Zion Lim Xiu Ming

in action

New Zealand

Marriage Relationship!

Before And After Marriage


Before Marriage

John - Ah...At last. I can hardly wait.
Jane - Do you want me to leave?
John - NO! Don't even think about it.
Jane - Do you love me?
John - Of course! Always have and always will!
Jane - Have you ever cheated on me?
John - NO! Why are you even asking?
Jane - Will you kiss me?
John - Every chance I get!
Jane - Will you hit me?
John - H**l no! Are you crazy?!
Jane - Can I trust you?
John - Yes Jane - Darling!


After Marriage

Read from the bottom back to the top.

Great photo shots of Xiu Ming taken by his parents

Yoga with Mummy!

Handsome Boy!

Prisoners?


Foot Massage!

Indecent exposure lah!

Good Advices!!!

HAPPINESS

To be happy with a man,
you must understand him a lot
and love him a little.

To be happy with a woman,
you must love her a lot
and not try to understand her at all.
______________________________

ROMANCE MATHEMATICS

Smart man + smart woman = romance
Smart man + dumb woman = affair
Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy
______________________________

OFFICE ARITHMETIC

Smart boss + smart employee = profit
Smart boss + dumb employee = production
Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime _____________________________

Shmuley's Words of Wisdom!

Shmuley's Words of Wisdom....(I still do not know who is Shmuley?)

Hanging around with Shmuley can be quite inspiring. So, we decided to grab a pen and paper and absorb everything that we could. We are now offering up nugget-sized bits of Shmuley's advice here.

You can't be a good parent without being a good spouse.

There are two kinds of parental love: the love you give your kids, and the love you give your spouse. Kids with loving spouses grow up believing in romantic love.

It's your kid's job to resist. It's your job to impose your will
Good discipline is just another form of love.

Ten percent of life is what happens; the other 90 percent is what you do about it.

Many of us parent out of fear - fear of alienating our kids, fear of making the wrong choice - but fear never leads to the right destination.

You cannot fix your children without also fixing yourself.

The greatest gift a man & a woman can give to their children is the gift of loving each other.

Shalom in the home, domestic tranquility, is the ultimate blessing. The man who has a woman who believes in him is impregnable and invincible. Nothing in life can hurt him because he has peace at this center.

Your marriage is not a facet of your life. It is your life. It is not a detail of your happiness, but its source and greatest blessing. Swallow your pride. Go back to the person to whom you once committed your life and exert the energy to make the marriage work again. By doing so you will have the satisfaction of knowing, not only that you never stopped climbing – that you never quit – but rather that you never climbed alone.

There is enough uncontrollable pain in life without us unnecessarily adding self-inflicted wounds.

The hero is not the man who conquers the world, but who conquers his own passions.

We dare never parent out of fear. Fear is a hysterical reaction to an imagined threat, while caution is a calculated response to a real danger.

We must raise our children to fear none but God alone. (for me our Conscience here)

A parent's bedroom is not a family sitting room or family dormitory. Children should never sleep in their parents' bedroom. If you need to hire a security guard to make your bedroom into Fort Knox, that is still better than allowing your role as parent to conflict with your role as lover to your spouse.

The rule of relationships is this: We all want to be wanted, need to be needed, desire to be desired. Demonstrating a dependency on the object of your love is the golden rule of relationships.

Man is a force of nature, like a hurricane, whose turbulence is on the extremities but has utter calm at its center. We are powerful when we have shalom, tranquility, in the home, when the place to which we retreat is tranquil. Then, none of the external noise pierces our soul. For many families today, however, they have tumultuous winds in the home, forcing them to flee to mind-numbing escapes on the extremities, outside the home.

It's not true that a couple's sex life need end with the advent of children. On the contrary, what is lovemaking other than a man and woman at play, flirtatious and precocious. And the natural playfulness that children inject into the lives of their parents can help them to draw closer.

The greatest gift that a man can give his children is to love their mother. Conversely, the greatest gift that a mother can give her children is to love their father.

By being happily married we gift to our children the knowledge that love works, that the world is comprised of pieces of a puzzle that ultimately fit.

The man who cheats on his wife thinks of himself as an adventurer, when really he is a wanderer.

We dare not make money into a commodity by which to purchase self-esteem.

The foremost sin in a marriage is to put someone (even your child) before each other.

The real purpose of counseling a family is not to point out right and wrong, but to inspire them to choose the right and reject the wrong.

The Garden of Eden was not a place in space, but a place in time. It represents our childhood years, when everything is magical and perfect. Eviction from Eden represents growing up, the natural tendency to be bitten by the hardships and disappointments of life, to calcify and coarsen. The restoration to Eden takes place when we have children, who reintroduce all the lost Eden-like qualities of childhood into our lives.

Parents today are guilty of believing that they can have healthy children without having a healthy family environment.

Most of us promise ourselves that we will never make the same mistakes as our parents, yet we grow up and almost by osmosis, we start becoming them. We end up transmitting to our children the same imperfections that our parents transmitted to us. It's a never-ending cycle. And there comes a time in the generational life of a family that one generation has to say, "Enough, I will be healed so that my children will heal." Let that generation be us.

You cannot have healthy children without having a healthy family environment.

There are no bad children. Only bad parents. When our kids act up, it's time to look in the mirror.

Parents need their children far more than children need their parents.

You are not a hero to the world unless you are first and foremost a hero to your children.

Have you really been successful if the people who mean the most to you, think the least of you?